Contributed by Alicia La Hoz, PsyD
Maybe you’ve heard this from the adolescent teen in your life recently. And maybe you’ve heard this from an internal voice that creeps up on you from time to time. You have one of those days when you don’t feel like tackling the mountain of laundry, the outstanding bills, the files you have to put away, and now the taxes you have to prepare. There are so many day-to-day demands that you have to keep up with, it’s no wonder that from time to time, your inner self rebels and you want to be like an adolescent again that screams and slams the door against life and says, “I don’t feel like it!” Well, now as you add a bunch more resolutions to the year, you may find that one of the deterrents keeping you from sticking to the goals you set out for yourself is your mood. Even if you are very disciplined and task oriented, your mood can determine how efficient you are in pushing through the to-dos in your life. Here is my top 10 list of “I don’t feel like it”:
- Doing chores and tasks around the house
- Getting to the honey to-do-tasks
- Preparing taxes
- Organizing the clutter (closet, garage)
- Getting to those tedious work tasks that I’ve done such a good job on procrastinating about
- Having difficult, honest conversation
- Confronting conflict that I’ve been avoiding
- Asking for forgiveness or forgiving
- Being thankful and going out of my way to do something nice and thoughtful for my spouse
What is in your top 10, “I don’t feel like it” list?
What we can’t afford to ignore is the quality time spent fostering the important relationships in life. When you take your spouse for granted, and you forget to notice the little things they do for you and when you ignore your children because you are too focused on the to-dos in your list – who is most important suffers. Even if you have to drag your feet to do it, it’s important to carve out time to spend with loved ones. When you spend time with them, you can connect and the opportunity to communicate occurs and with that there is a fighting chance for problems to get solved. When you spend time with them, love has a chance to flourish.
This year, Family Bridges is working with several organizations and businesses to encourage couples to spend time together and to go out on date nights. Would you consider making date nights a resolution for this year? If you are a parent, plan date nights with your children, if you are married, plan date nights and enjoy your family and your spouse again. Stay tuned for fun date night deals, events, and resources we will be announcing in the next few weeks to help you as you plan these for the year.