Contributed by Charles Woehr
You still can’t believe it – how could people be so careless? What were they thinking? Or better: why weren’t they thinking? And now, the damage is done…too late to change their minds, too late to make last minute adjustments, the only thing left is their posthumous cry: “OH, NO!!”
It didn’t have to happen that way. A little more planning, a bit more investigating …things would have turned out differently. We have the benefit of learning from the mistakes of others, without having to go through their pain or loss. Let’s take a closer look at one of those stories and see what we can learn that will make us wiser (than them) in the choices we make.
Poor Jack. It all started with a live pine tree from a Christmas long ago, which had later been replanted in the space between the house and the swing set in the backyard. Now, years later, it was taller than the house and no longer appreciated. Jack decided to cut it down. He could have called for tree removal service but preferred to save money and do it himself; after all, he thought, he had a chain saw, a pair of gloves, and a good head on his shoulders. What more could he need? The day for action came, and he stood by the tree going over his plan: goggles, gloves, chainsaw, a couple of nicely placed cuts, and one tree down (should drop right between the house and the swing set). Everything was going just fine until he noticed that the tree was starting to fall in the wrong direction… against the house! End result: broken roof, wall, windows, and having to call the tree service anyway (not to mention his neighbor who caught it on video and posted it on the internet). What went wrong? Jack made a wrong guess about where to place the cut that would cause the tree to fall in the right place. He could have consulted an expert, over this detail, and saved himself a lot of trouble.
That kind of thinking carries over into other areas of our lives. For example: you want to have a strong and healthy family. You may think you have all the elements to make it happen: a husband, a wife, and three little children. But do you have all the knowledge you need to make this family nucleus into a strong and healthy one? Are you ready to be a good role model? Do you know how to meet the needs of your spouse? What about disciplining children? What are the most important things to teach your children? What boundaries should a healthy family have? How do you know if you are being successful?
Remember poor Jack: he forgot to seek out an expert in tree cutting. So, if your goal is to have a strong and healthy family, you need to seek an expert on the subject. Family Bridges is a great choice for getting sound and practical advice for making your family a strong and healthy one. With a wide variety of workshops, trainings and lots of helpful materials, Family Bridges has been successfully educating couples and families for years. Remember, you are not alone in your project – you don’t have to guess what to do to get things to fall into place. Contact Family Bridges and let these family experts give you great advice on how to get the job done.